A really, really, reeeeeally good someone

I was chatting with a friend on MSN the other day and somehow my situation came up (it almost always does these days). This is his take: "You always needed someone, but you also needed a really, really, really good someone. You just allowed the former to take precedence."

I agreed with him, and on further reflection I also came up with a good reason why I always 'allowed the former to take precedence' - because no one I've met has yet lived up to my standards and expectations. And so I invariably end up 'settling' for someone, even though I tell myself I'm not. I think I'm afraid that I'll never find anyone good enough, that maybe there isn't such a person out there - I don't exactly have the highest opinion of guys. Perfect guys only exist in books and dreams. In real life, the guys I meet just don't cut it, at least not for me. I don't need, or indeed want, a perfect guy - I'd be overjoyed with just a good one. (Not even a really, really, really good one!) And I don't mean good in terms of wealth or career or social standing - anyone who really knows me also knows I don't care for these things very much! Just a nice stand-up guy who values family and God, who's a gentleman, who's honest and steady and kind. Everything else is just gravy. Is that really so hard to find?

But it seems like - and I've said this and heard this said a thousand times over - all the good ones are ancient, taken or gay. The sad truth.

I don't know. Maybe as my girlfriend says, I just need to widen my social circle. Maybe I've just been meeting all the wrong guys. (So where are the right guys hiding???) Or maybe my standards are just too high. But then if this is what happens when I lower my standards then obviously that isn't the way to go...

So what now?

I guess I keep my standards and keep looking. And waiting. And praying. And maybe someday...

Okay. No more 'settling for' anyone. It's time to raise the bar.